200+ Questions to Ask Your Spouse for a Fun and Thoughtful Conversation

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Learn about each other, connect on a deeper level, and share a few laughs with some of these questions to ask your spouse that you can pose to your partner in crime in many different conversations.

Questions to Ask Your Spouse

Questions to ask your spouse (list of questions 1-14, all below).


Keep the conversation fun and entertaining with some of these questions you can ask your spouse in a variety of situations.

1. If you could choose to have any superpower, what superpower would you choose?

2. Who was your first ever celebrity crush?

3. If you could only ever eat one vegetable and one fruit again, what would you choose?

4. If you could relive one year of your life, which year would you choose?

5. Which book do you wish would be turned into a movie?

6. If you had to give a Ted Talk, what topic would you choose?

7. What’s your go-to karaoke song?

8. What’s the strangest dream you’ve ever had?

9. What’s your happiest memory from childhood?

10. If you could be an expert on any subject, what subject would you choose?

11. How would you describe me in three words?

12. What do you like best about your life?

13. How would you describe yourself in three words?

14. What was your first impression of me?

15. When was your first kiss?

16. Did you have any silly nicknames growing up?

17. What’s the craziest dare you’ve ever done?


Ignite a few sparks and set a romantic mood with some of these romantic questions, helping you learn more about each other and reach a deeper level of intimacy.

18. What would your perfect date involve?

19. What is your love language?

20. When did you know you’d fallen in love with me?

21. What’s your favorite activity we do together?

22. What’s your favorite feature of mine?

23. What’s your favorite date we’ve been on?

24. How could we make our marriage more exciting?

25. In what ways do you think we could make our relationship stronger?

26. What’s one thing I do that makes you feel loved?

27. What do you think is the secret to a long-lasting relationship?

28. What’s your favorite memory of us?

29. What’s something you really want us to try?

30. Do you believe in soul mates?

31. What’s something you’d like us to prioritize?

32. What do you love most about me?

33. What do you think is my best personality trait?

34. What’s the kindest thing I’ve ever done for you?

35. What could I do to improve our relationship?

36. How do you define love?

37. What meal reminds you of me?

38. Which is more important to you, quality time or physical affection?


Being silly and having a laugh together is one of the healthiest things you can do in a long-term relationship, and these questions should help you do that.

39. What was your most embarrassing moment?

40. What’s your most irrational fear?

41. How long do you think you’d survive in a zombie apocalypse? Do you think you’d survive for longer than me?

42. What’s your favorite song to sing in the shower?

43. What’s your favorite romantic comedy?

44. What has been your worst fashion choice ever?

45. What TV show from your childhood would you still watch now?

46. What do you think is your worst habit?

47. What are your biggest pet peeves?

48. What one household chore do you wish you never had to do again?

49. What are you embarrassed to admit you enjoy?

50. What unusual talent do you have?

51. What do you think is the worst haircut in existence?

52. Who’s your favorite cartoon character?

53. If dogs were in charge of the world, what laws do you think they’d introduce?

54. What’s the worst advice you’ve ever received?

55. If you woke up as a member of the opposite sex for one day, what’s the first thing you’d do?

56. If you were reincarnated, would you rather be a cat or a dog?

57. What would you be most likely to go to prison for?

58. If you were a celebrity, what story would be most likely to appear about you in the tabloids?

59. What’s your favorite chat-up line?

60. If you discovered a new planet, what would you name it?

61. What’s the funniest joke you’ve ever heard?

62. How old were you when you stopped believing in Santa Claus?

63. What song are you embarrassed to know all the words to?


Connect on a much deeper and emotional level than any trivial conversation can reach by asking each other some of these deep and thought-provoking questions, if the mood and timing is right.

64. How do you think your childhood influenced who you are today?

65. Is there anything you don’t know about me, but wish you did?

66. How many times have you been in love?

67. What were you like in high school?

68. Do you think society would be better or worse without social media?

69. Do you believe in an afterlife?

70. If you could find out the date you were going to die, would you want to know?

71. What motto do you try to live by?

72. What regrets do you have?

73. What do you consider to be cheating?

74. What are you most grateful for?

75. What are the three things you look for in a friend?

76. If you found out you had one month left to live, how would you spend it?

77. What are the biggest challenges you’re currently facing in life?

78. Do you think the world will be a better or worse place in 100 years?

79. If you could take one person (not me) to a desert island, who would you take?

80. What have you learned from your previous relationships?

About Themselves

Get your spouse to open up about themselves, their beliefs, aspirations, and what they need in life to be happy with these great questions, and be sure to answer them for yourself too.

81. What song is your guilty pleasure?

82. Do you consider yourself to be an extrovert or an introvert?

83. Are you more of an optimist or a pessimist?

84. What do you think is the best thing about you as a spouse?

85. What do you think is the worst thing about you as a spouse?

86. If you could only eat one meal for the rest of your life, what would you choose?

87. Which family member are you both like?

88. If you weren’t doing your current job, what other job do you think you’d be doing?

89. What were your favorite books to read growing up?

90. Do you work better independently or as part of a team?

91. Which actor would you like to play you in a movie about your life?

92. What’s the most comforting smell, in your opinion?

93. What’s the strangest food you’ve ever eaten?

94. What would you do if you had enough money not to work?

95. If you were in a difficult situation, who would you go to for advice?

96. What are your most important values?

97. Have you ever saved anybody’s life?

98. Has anybody ever saved your life?

99. Would you like to be famous? If so, what for?

100. In conversations, do you prefer to talk or listen?

101. Which family traditions from your childhood would you like us to continue?

About the Future

Open up about where you feel your lives are heading, and broader questions about life and society, with some of these questions about the future you can both ask each other.

102. Where do you see yourself in ten years?

103. What are your top priorities for the next two years?

104. Where do you see your career going?

105. What items are on your bucket list?

106. What goals do you have for our relationship?

107. What would your ideal life look like?

108. If you could return to a destination we’ve already visited, where would you go?

109. What do you want to do in retirement?

110. What destinations do you most want to visit?

111. What do you want us to achieve in the next five years?

112. If you could only tick off one remaining item from your bucket list, which would you choose?

113. Which members of your friendship group do you think you’ll still be friends with in 20 years?

114. Do you think there’s anything we need to change to achieve our future goals?

115. Would you ever consider an entirely different career path to the one you’re currently on?

116. What do you feel is your purpose in life?

117. What would you like people to say about you at your funeral?

Open-Ended Questions

Take the conversation to some interesting places with these open-ended questions to ask your spouse, ideal for chatting the night away together.

118. If you won one million dollars, how would you spend it? 

119. What qualities do you think make a good romantic partner?

120. If you started a band, what would the band’s name be?

121. What’s the best life advice you’ve received, and who gave it to you?

122. What’s the biggest risk you’ve ever taken?

123. What qualities do you value most in a friend?

124. If you could switch places with anyone for one day, who would you choose and why?

125. If you were an animal, what animal would you be?

126. If you never had to sleep again, what would you do with all your free time?

127. If you could go back to being a particular age again, how old would you choose to be and why?

128. If you could take a one-month vacation for free anywhere in the world, where would you choose?

129. Which song best sums up our relationship, and why?

“Yes or No” Questions

Keep things simple with these “yes or no” questions which you can use to have some fun and interesting conversations without having to delve too deep into certain topics.

130. Do you believe in karma?

131. Do you enjoy cooking? 

132. Would you want to travel the world if you had the money?

133. Do you like change?

134. Do you believe in luck?

135. Do you believe there’s life on other planets?

136. Do you believe that everything happens for a reason?

137. Would you ever go on a reality TV show?

138. Do you believe in love at first sight?

139. Do you have a good relationship with your family?

140. Do you think your childhood self would be surprised about where your life is today?

141. Do you like going out of your comfort zone?

142. Are you a spiritual person?

143. Did you keep a journal when you were growing up?

144. Do you think people can have psychic abilities?

145. Do you like surprises?

146. Do you relate to your zodiac sign?

147. Do you believe in ghosts?

148. Do you think it’s ever acceptable to lie?

149. Do you find it easy to set boundaries?

150. Do you care what others think of you?

151. Are you afraid of death?

152. Do you consider yourself to be a risk taker?

153. Is seeing the world important to you?

“Would You Rather” Questions

Great for some fun and intriguing conversation, if you love throwing some of these questions into the conversation be sure to check out our list of 100+ “would you rather questions” for plenty more topics and ideas.

154. Would you rather always be ten minutes early or ten minutes late?

155. Would you rather have the top half of a human and the bottom half of a goat or the top half of a goat and the bottom half of a human?

156. Would you rather choose truth or dare?

157. Would you rather be able to speak every language or be able to speak to animals?

158. Would you rather live in London or Paris?

159. Would you rather live in a country where it often rains or where it never rains?

160. Would you rather drink ketchup through a straw or eat BBQ sauce with a spoon?  

161. Would you rather be able to fly or read minds?

162. Would you rather wake up tomorrow morning ten years in the past or ten years in the future?

163. Would you rather meet your ancestors or your descendants?

164. Would you rather show up to a party underdressed or overdressed?

165. Would you rather live in a boat or a camper van?

166. Would you rather be able to relive memories from your past or be able to see your future?

167. Would you rather never be able to kiss again or never be able to snuggle again?

168. Would you rather have to sing along or dance along every time you hear a piece of music?

169. Would you rather never eat sugar or never eat salt again?

170. Would you rather never be able to use a fork or a spoon again?

171. Would you rather never move house again or have to move once every year?

172. Would you rather live in Los Angeles or New York?

173. Would you rather give up pasta or potatoes?

174. Would you rather be an incredibly talented singer or actor?

175. Would you rather be loved or respected?

More Questions

If you’re still looking for inspiration and more fun and interesting questions, give some of these a try the next time you’re deep in conversation.

176. What ten items would you want to have on a desert island?

177. Who would be your dream dinner guest?

178. What’s your favorite memory from your childhood?

179. What is one thing you’re not willing to compromise in a relationship?

180. How many days do you think you could go without your mobile phone?

181. Which game show do you think you could win?

182. If you could only eat one flavor of ice cream again, what flavor would you choose?

183. If you won $1,000,000 tomorrow, would you spend it or save it?

184. What was your favorite subject in school?

185. What’s your biggest strength?

186. What’s your biggest weakness?

187. Which TV character do you relate to most?

188. What country do you most want to visit?

189. What country are you not interested in visiting?

190. Do you consider yourself a morning person or a night owl?

191. If you could find out what people said behind your back, would you want to know?

192. What movie never fails to make you cry?

193. Which one of your friends is most similar to you?

194. If you could bring one fictional character from books, TV, or movies to life, who would you choose?

195. Who’s your celebrity lookalike?

196. What items would you put in a time capsule?

197. What’s a skill you always wanted to learn but never had the time?

198. What’s your favorite board game?

199. If the house was on fire and you could only take one thing with you, what would it be?

200. What book or movie has had the biggest impact on your life?

201. What’s one thing I don’t know about you?

From light-hearted observations to deep thoughts about life and the world, fun and meaningful conversation with your spouse is important for staying connected, fulfilled, and in love.

There are so many fun, intriguing, and thoughtful questions on this list you can ask your spouse if you’re looking for some conversation starters or topics to talk about – so much so, you’ll be chatting long into the night!

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Questions to ask your spouse (list of questions 1-14, all above).