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These ten self-confidence tips will help you develop good habits and see yourself in a positive way. The more confident you feel, the better your life can be.
1. Accept Imperfection
We live in a world where everyone is trying to look perfect. Influencers posting on Instagram. Models doing shoots. Celebrities on TV.
The more we obsess about being perfect, the more our self-confidence gets hit. Striving for perfection is making things worse, not better.
Accept we are all imperfect. See your imperfections as little quirks that make you unique. If we were all perfect, wouldn’t that be the most boring world to live in?
2. Start Your Day Positively
The way we start our day will decide the type of day we have. Start it slow and tired, and your day will be tiring too. Start positive, and that energy will carry you through to the afternoon and evening.
Develop some good morning habits. You can start by writing 5 things about yourself each morning in your journal. Try to exercise and eat a good breakfast.
Also, find some inspirational videos on YouTube. I’ve always loved Tony Robbins’ motivational videos. You can also watch some inspirational Ted Talks on how to build self-confidence.
3. Be Kind to Others
You might wonder what kindness has to do with self-confidence? Have you ever noticed the most confident people (not the fake confident people but the truly confident ones) are some of the kindest people you will ever meet?
Understand that, most of the time, if someone verbally attacks you, it’s likely not about anything to do with you. It’s their own insecurities manifesting outwardly, and you happen to be their target.
Rise above this. Be kind and helpful where you can. It will resonate with people, and it will make you feel more confident.
4. Stop Spending Time with Toxic People
Negative people will bring your confidence down. It’s hard to feel good about yourself when you’re in a negative atmosphere.
On that note, you should stop spending time with toxic people. Sometimes, no matter how kind and understanding you are towards someone, you will not be able to change their toxic mindset and behaviors.
Focus your energy on people who lift you up. Don’t waste it trying to change people who will always be toxic.
5. Stop Comparing Yourself to Others
I bet you’ve heard this quote before:
Everyone is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid.
We all have our strengths and weaknesses. Embrace what makes you unique and don’t compare yourself to others, especially in areas of their strengths versus your weaknesses.
6. Stop Being Envious of Others
With the wrong mindset, seeing others achieve their dreams can fill you with envy. But envy knocks your self-confidence down.
Stop being envious of others. Start praising people more for their talents. And you’ll see people will do the same for you, which will ultimately boost your confidence.
7. Do Something You’re Good at Every Day
Some things in life we need to learn and practice. But all of us have talents at which we’re naturally good.
Try to do something you’re good at every day for at least 30 days. This will allow you to focus on your strengths. It will stop you from comparing yourself to others, and it will do wonders for your self-confidence.
8. Replace Negative Thoughts with Positive Ones
Our mindsets are the key to improving self-confidence. If you think negatively about yourself all the time, you won’t feel confident.
Every time you have a negative thought about yourself, pause for a few seconds, and think of something good about yourself.
It will take time, but this technique will help change your mindset. Over time, you’ll switch from someone who focuses on negatives to someone who sees the bright side of things. And those positive thoughts will improve your self-confidence.
9. Stop Being a People Pleaser
When you try to seek everyone’s approval, you lose your self-confidence. It’s important to know your own worth. Don’t be afraid to say no to people.
Learning when to say ‘yes’ and ‘no’ will help you take back control of your time and priorities. This will make you feel far more confident.
10. Laugh it Off
Everyone on social media tries to portray a perfect life. But in reality, we all know life is about ups and downs. Sometimes, things go wrong. And that’s absolutely fine.
Take a more lighthearted approach to things. If things don’t go as planned, learn to brush them off. Laugh about it, and don’t take yourself too seriously.
Self-confidence doesn’t develop overnight. It takes practice. But if you follow these self-confidence tips now, you’ll be well on your way to a better and happier you!
Ultimately, the power is in your hands. You build your own confidence. And when you’re self-confident, positive things will come your way.